Belief….Let’s try to remove some vulnerability

Just recently someone betrayed me. Some of my friends saw that happening and they started coming up with the ideas like “There is no one u can trust”, Life’s golden rule is “Don’t trust any body”, “The person was never worth of trust”… so on and so forth. Now hang on a second, yes when that guy betrayed me I missed something, but let me not miss the lesson from it.

When something goes wrong often people start cribbing about the other people or the fate or the system. I believe that’s not fair. To put someone else responsible for one’s personal situation is just not right. “Don’t trust any body” is just too impractical because besides the basic physical needs, the first emotional need of any human being is Love and Love can’t start without trust. Even when the relationships get broken the biggest reason is that people starts not to trust to each other. Often the fear of not being accepted (for man) and the fear of not being loved (for Woman) let the mistrust in and the relationship ruins. Further I believe making mistakes while trying hard is much better then not to try, so yes one has to trust to make is life more colorful. But again the question comes how to pick people???

There was something I read some where in my moral science book that was “Never trust a person with low IQ”. There was a fable supporting this idea. The fable goes as follows “Once upon a time a king had a monkey. They were great friends and the monkey used to serve the king by all his heart and soul. Once king was sleeping and the monkey was guarding the king. Suddenly a fly came and sit on the nose of the king. The monkey tried to get the fly away but the more he tried more fly was humming around the king’s nose. After more and more efforts the monkey went out of his sense and he picked the sword and tried to kill the fly sitting on the king’s nose!!!!!” but now my problem is that the guy betraying me is a highly intelligent person. He is not a bad guy either. I have been with him. I know him. I sense him. He is not a black heart. Then where the problem came from? Again the only possible answer seems to be correct is ‘Don’t trust anybody”. After all you can’t trust stupid and you can’t trust intelligent. But certainly I was not ready to accept this idea.

Then I thought that monkey was not a bad chap. He loved king, but something made him do things wrong. If we can find the cause then certainly we will be able to provide the solution for this question…and who was the culprit?? It was Ego!!! Monkey could not bear that a small fly is beyond his control. It was his sole ego, which the fly hurt, and just that made him go crazy…that made him do mistake. The same way the guy was nice but the situation was like that it came to his ego and bang!!!! He did that.. killing all the emotions, all the good we share, he just did it…

So here my learning goes from this bitter experience. “Belief is something you can not avoid as it is something you need supporting the base of your life. But while showing your trust just, be careful that he person should not be having ample of ego in him. Yes, we all have ego up to some extent but it must not be the deriving force of once life. Filter those people out who have this sort of ego problem. Then make sure that the warmth in your relationship is much more then the little ego in him. Take him to the stage of selflessness with you and when you are succeeded in that then show the trust.” Certainly I believe this philosophy should be helpful in avoiding unnecessary betrayals and getting good relationship around……